Life is complicated and life is strange. There’s no specific blueprint that we can use to plan and navigate the various corridors of it all. Just when we think we’ve achieved some sort of stability, we come to another crossroads, which in turn leads to an endless series of forks, switchbacks and other impossibly unpredictable routes. It’s enough to drive anyone to frustration and can make you feel stifled, stuck and uncertain. When we reach these points in our lives – these inexorable stop points – it’s hard to decide what to do or what your next plan will be.
In a lot of cases, all we need to escape this feeling of helplessness, whether it be from a lifestyle, relationship or societal perspective, is a little change. We’ll look at a number of small deviations you can make to change your mindset and propel you forward.
Dye your hair
Although this might not seem like such a major life change, it’s a really powerful move if you stop to think about it. Hair, after all, represents your image. How you wear your hair speaks volumes about who you are as a person. It’s why people are often shocked when they see an old friend with a radically different hairstyle. There’s a deep-rooted symbolism here, and dyeing your hair is one way of experiencing and expressing change. It will liberate you, empower you and give you the ability to look at things afresh.
If you’re a brunette, consider going a lighter shade with blonde hair dye. If you’ve got ginger hair, consider going black. If you’re looking for something a bit more avant-garde, dye your hair multiple colors. The outcome is less important than the action itself.
Appreciate what you have
Sometimes it’s easy to get stuck thinking about what we lack and don’t have and forget about the abundance of things that we already possess. It’s easy to feel jealous or to let our minds wander to wishing about things we want, especially in an age of social media when friends, celebrities and other personalities are constantly uploading perfectly filtered snapshots of lives we wish we could have. But before you get lost down that rabbit hole of want, take time to be grateful for the things you already have in life.
A good way to do this is to write down a list each morning when you wake up or go to bed. This list should have between five or ten bullet points and each one should list something enriching in your life that you already have. The point of this exercise is to remind ourselves of the friendship and love in our lives and to stop comparing ourselves to others. It’s this small task that will lead to a monumental shift of positivity in your mindset and the way you conduct yourself in day-to-day life.
Learn something new
This doesn’t have to be a new language or how to master an instrument – although it could very well lead to that – but rather about learning something entirely new that you didn’t know yesterday. Talk to someone you never thought about talking to before, pick up a book and ensure you read a couple of pages before you go to bed or watch a documentary you always wanted to watch but never made time for. It’s the accumulation of these little bits of knowledge that will lead you to a happier, more fulfilled and enlightened space.
Clean out your closet
Go through your closet and get rid of that pair of jeans that has been sitting idle for two years. Give the pair to charity, your roommate or recycle it. By decluttering you give your brain less to worry about, and it also contributes to the first point made in this article: helping you to appreciate what you already have. While this doesn’t necessarily apply to only your closet, the sentiment remains the same regardless: get rid of some stuff that you no longer have use for and that is only weighing you down.